With my father B.C. Machaiah (Retired. Police Officer) — Parane, Kodagu District, India
As I stood amidst the serene beauty of my hometown in Kodagu (Coorg) district, watching the funeral pyre of my father blaze against the backdrop of our ancestral lands, I found myself enveloped in a tapestry of memories and wisdom that he had bequeathed to me. My father, a dedicated police officer who served and protected his community passed away on April 25, 2023, at the age of 85, led a life that was a testament to living with integrity, simplicity, and a profound commitment to service.
In the quiet moments of reflection that followed his passing, I was reminded of the lessons he imparted, lessons that were as simple in their wording as they were deep in their meaning: Eat lightly, drink moderately, exercise regularly, and love excessively. But beyond these, he emphasized a philosophy that has become the bedrock of my understanding of life — serving something higher than yourself and contributing meaningfully to society.
Growing up in India, a land steeped in spiritual diversity and tradition, I had the privilege of witnessing the embodiment of true wisdom through my father’s everyday actions. Unlike the narratives that often glorify the path of renunciation for enlightenment, my father’s life story was a powerful narrative of engagement. He believed in being fully present in the world, embracing the gamut of experiences it offers — love, loss, laughter, and learning — while maintaining a sense of detachment from the outcome and expectations that often entangle us.
This philosophy was not born in isolation but was a product of India’s rich cultural and spiritual milieu. Accompanying my father on his police duties during significant religious events, I encountered monks and ascetics from multiple faiths, many of whom had descended from their secluded retreats in the Himalayas. Observing the crowds that gathered to seek blessings and wisdom from these spiritual figures, I am reminded of the profound conversations with my father. He often said, “Son, it is important to embrace the world fully and go through it all — love, loss, learn, laugh, and through it all live and thrive! Be in the world, but not of this world.”
This simple yet profound message has stayed with me, shaping my understanding of what it means to live a fulfilled life. It is not the ascetic’s withdrawal from the world that defines wisdom and fulfillment but the everyday person’s courage to face life’s challenges with integrity and love. My father’s life was a testament to this belief. He lived not as a monk in search of enlightenment but as a man deeply rooted in the world, dedicated to protecting his community, caring for his family, and living a life of service.
As I navigate through my roles as a son, a father, family, and citizen, I am guided by the legacy of my father’s wisdom. It is a reminder that true fulfillment and integrity come not from escaping the world but from engaging with it passionately, responsibly, and with compassion. So let us not get carried away by becoming monks and celebrating those who had some experiences in those roles. Let us celebrate those admist us today who are making a difference in communities where they live and serve — real people, real stories, real heroes!
In sharing this legacy, I aim to inspire others to recognize the beauty and depth in the everyday acts of courage, love, and service that define a truly fulfilled life. Let us celebrate the unsung heroes who, like my father, teach us that wisdom lies in living a life deeply rooted in the world yet not bound by it.
source: http://www.medium.com / Medium.com / Home / by Poonacha Machaiah / March 03rd, 2024
